Being In the Vortex: How to change your habit of being a People Pleaser or Everyone’s Hero
If you are on the page you have identified yourself as a people pleaser or someone who wants to be everyone’s Hero. Read on for a few tips to step out of your old ways of being into a whole new world.
If you are always trying to be normal
you will never know how AMAZING you can be.
There’s another way and here are a few steps to get you started:
- Start noticing how many times you are desperately trying to make someone happy in your life: Are you a parent? Remember you are a parent. You are not meant to be the “best friend” to your children. Your children may not always like you when you parent them. That’s okay. Your relationship with them will be fair bigger and better by BEING the parent in a loving empowering way.
- Make a list of everything you are making yourself responsible for right now: Does it feel like you have more on your plate than you can handle? This is typical sign of someone who it trying to keep others happy. It’s also a sign that you’re trying to be the one and all for everyone. Some might say “The Hero” or you feel good when you “Save the Day”. You can certainly be there for others, but take careful note of when it over and beyond the call of duty.
- Identify things you are doing that others can do for themselves: Oh, this is so powerful when you give up doing it all. It’s quite surprising when you discover how many things your are doing that others can do easily for themselves. A great example is an aging parent. You do not have to go in a Save the Day. There will be a time when they need help. Do not take away their dignity of doing for themselves by just doing it yourself.
- Let others know that you are changing your role: It’s time for the conversation with others that you will no longer be doing something. How do you do that? Here’s just one example. “You know how I always take you to the store on Fridays? It doesn’t work for me to do that anymore.” For most, that will take care of it. They don’t have to know the details. You do not have to explain yourself. Just let them know it doesn’t work anymore and they need to make other arrangements. It make make it smoother if you have other options for them already, but that is not your responsibility.
As you let go of more and more of your self inflicted responsibiliies you will have more time and more energy. You will start to feel better and better about life.
Get ready for life’s adventures and discovering who you truly are. Have a great time on your journey!
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