Negative Life Patterns: Sharing the same sad or bad story over & over again with others?
Negative Life Patterns are like any other habit. There is a thought that repeats itself over and over and over again.
Repetitive Thoughts = Beliefs
Beliefs become habits and then it appears that you can’t stop them. You feel stuck with your sad bad life.
Negative Life Patterns: How did this thought cycle start & how can I possibly change it? It feels like an impossible task!
All life patterns begin from observing your surroundings. You have met certain people, you have had certain experiences and you start to adopt your own ‘story about life’.
Children are infamous for mimicking their parents. They start to collect family thoughts, beliefs, conversations and actions. They must be correct because they came from your family, right? Not necessarily.
You also collected life patterns of thought from school, church, community, peer groups, media and more.
You have collected thousands and thousands of life patterns. Some of them are life enhancing which we call POSITIVE. Some of your thoughts are not so life enhancing. Those other thoughts are life depleting and we call them NEGATIVE.
Negative Life Patterns: You also inherited life patterns from your ancestors who lived hundreds of years ago
Whoah! You can’t believe what I just said? That’s okay. I am saving that conversation for another article. Just know there are ways to re-pattern old ancestral beliefs. I work with people all over the world to do just that. I have found that the old ancestral beliefs affect us more than the current life we are living. More about that later. Right now we are going to talk about your here and now life stories.
Negative Life Patterns: How do you know if you are stuck in a negative life patterning & what do you do about it?
I hangout in several groups in life. Today I was taken back by a conversation of a young woman. She is going to be your valuable teacher today.
Paraphrasing the main subject of her conversation: “As soon as I get any extra money something comes up that I have to spend it right away.”
First of all, thoughts are things. Can you see how her conversation keeps this Negative Life Pattern in place?
Our words are POWERFUL! You are the only one who can start cleaning up the words you use in your everyday conversations.
Negative Life Patterns: Some suggestions on how to re-pattern old negative thought patterns & create a NEW LIFE
ALWAYS REMEMBER: If you do not want a certain experience ever again you have to drop the habit of talking about that experience. When you repeat your story you are actually deeply rooting your negative experience back in place again. Do not tell that story ever again if you want to move on with life.
There are times that sharing your story is empowering. Here are some words you can use to take it out of the present moment: “Historically this is what my life looked like…”.
Do not overuse the “Historically…” statement so that you can still talk about your negative story. If you find the need to do that then you may have missed the point.
Negative Life Patterns: 7 Steps To Reduce & Delete Out Negative Thoughts Cycles So You Can Move On
#1 – Consciously acknowledge the negative life pattern that you want to change: “…every time I accumulate money an emergency comes up and my money disappears. I can’t seem to manifest money like everyone else does”.
#2 – KNOW you can clear out the old pattern and start brand new: You are a powerful being! Use that power to choose the words for a life that you love.
#3 – Notice what you said and speak what you want instead: Take what you said and flip it into a positive thought. Here’s is one example of what a flip could sound like: “My current financial challenges are momentary and I choose to live in total PROSPERITY”.
#4 – Write down every experience you can remember that has this same Negative Life Pattern: It’s time to write down the good, the bad and the ugly. Don’t be afraid of thinking about the negative. You are POWERFULLY and INTENTIONALLY letting go of these experiences from your cellular memory.
#5 – Lay the paper on a pillow and hit it with a Nerf bat while verbalizing your frustrations: Verbalize ALL of the frustrations, anxiety, depression, anger or whatever comes up for you. My favorite statement is “I’m so done with this” as I continue to pound the heck out of those past negative thoughts.
#6 – Shred the paper(s) immediately: This is NOT a journal. These are not thoughts you want to reminisce about or risk repeating. NOW FOR THE ICING ON THE CAKE. 🙂
#7 – Write down everything you have to be grateful for right now: Fill up a page. There is nothing too small to be grateful for.